Have you ever noticed that as soon as you choose to be irritated by something, you suddenly have a hundred other things to irritate you? First you get caught up in a traffic jam. Then the person using the ATM while you’re waiting in line fumbles around and takes twice as long as normal. Then you drop your keys, and so on. Let me tell you why you keep attracting the same problems.
You are attracting into your life certain situations for a reason. Everything in the universe (including thoughts) is energy, and therefore subject to the laws of physics. Whatever thoughts and feelings you are emitting, you are becoming a magnet for experiences of a similar energy.
You might have always thought that things in life just “happen” to you randomly, and you have no control over them, but this is not so. The “bad luck” could have ended with the traffic jam, but because you kept telling yourself “This is so annoying, this is so annoying,” the cycle continues on.
Have a think about what you are attracting into your life at the moment. Now, have a think about what you would like to be attracting. Is it the same? If you seem to be attracting a lot of situations into your life that you don’t want, it is time to sit up and pay attention.
What you focus on includes what you picture in your mind, what you think about, what you look at, read about or listen to, what you tell yourself, what you tell others, and what you believe. Once you start to recognise the ways in which you attract situations in your life, you will be much more empowered to gain control of them. Let’s take a look at some of the common examples of how you may be continuing the “run of back luck”…
- Constantly telling people about your irritations: “you’ll never believe the bad day I have had so far. First there was this… then this…”,
- Telling yourself in your mind how annoyed and frustrated you are, or how <insert insult> someone else is
- Disempowering body language and facial expressions. Eg. frowning, stiff shoulders, slumped over, arms crossed or hands on hips
- Exaggerated, over-the-top language: “I am absolutely livid that they were so rude to me!”
- Focusing on what you don’t want “I wish I wasn’t so fat, how can I lose weight, I need to eat low-fat foods
- Picturing an upcoming situation in your mind and imagining it going badly
If any of the above strategies are familiar to you, then you need to start becoming aware of the energy that you are emitting. Now that you know what not to do, you can begin making slight changes in your behaviour that will start attracting the outcomes you would like by changing your language, behaviour, and focus to something that is positive and empowering.
Are you being what you want to attract? If you want money, are you expressing abundant thoughts, feelings and actions? If you want more love, are you being loving? If you want more happiness, are you being happy? Many people go through life focusing on what they don’t want, and then wonder why they get more of it, instead of whatever it is that they do want. There is no point in waiting for love/happiness/success IF you are focusing on a lack of these things.
The more you perceive that you are lacking something, the more of that lack you will notice. You need to start emitting the vibrations that you want (eg. happiness) first, and then the universe will match your vibration and send those same frequencies back to you. The universe is your boomerang. Whatever you throw out there by means of focusing on it, is what will come back to you.
If you are single and attracting the same ‘type’ of person, there is a reason for it. Do you regularly say to yourself or others that all men are liars? That all women want is your money? If you keep attracting the same problem, what are these people who are coming into your life here to teach you? What do you need to change within yourself?
You will continue to attract what you continue to focus on. If you are still attracting the same people or situations that you don’t want, perhaps you have not yet learnt the lesson. What you need to do now is address the problem at the root cause. Once you identify how you have created the situation, your awareness will shift, and the pattern will change.
If you are ready to finally change the patterns that have been holding you back from the life you deserve, contact Susan to discuss how you can break the pattern.