Happy New Year!
Well 2015 is now under way across the world, and I hope you have all recovered from your celebrations (okay, perhaps some of us are still recovering…)
You’ve probably had a chance by now to think about what you’d like to achieve in 2015.
Some of the common New Years Resolutions you will see are goals such as lose weight, quit smoking, get out of debt.
Whilst the intention may be noble, neither of these are very good goals, and are unlikely to set you up for success.
You see, the subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between what is a fear and what is real. This means that you will continue to attract what you focus on – regardless of whether it is want you want or what you don’t want.
In each of the above examples, the focus is on what is NOT wanted: “weight”, “smoking”, and “debt”. Now what do you think you will likely manifest if you focus on those things? You guessed it – a whole lot more of that!
The subconscious mind works a bit like a Google search engine. If you articulate your search query according to what you don’t want, that’s exactly what you’ll get. Say you’re exploring a a new country and you type “places to visit that aren’t dangerous”, you’ll just get a list of all of the most dangerous places around. It doesn’t matter that you have the word “not” in there, or the world “loss” in weight loss. These words are insignificant as they are only relative to the focus words, “dangerous” or “weight”.
Changing the word “dangerous” to “safe” will generate an entirely different result – the one that you want.
The key is to always use positive language when focusing on what you want. It is so important to be mindful of your language – regardless of whether you are writing your goals down, talking about them with others, or simply thinking about them in your head.
Goals such as “Be healthy, be financially abundant” are much better worded.
Not only is the focus here on positive language, but the other benefit is that you can also focus on daily actions that will lead to the accomplishment of your goals. Losing weight is an end goal – something that takes time. Whenever you focus on a “being” rather than a “having”, you can create instant results because you immediately step into that person you want to be, instead of thinking that you can only be that person once you “have” something you want first.
For example, if you list all of the values that being healthy will give you, you’ll find that a lot of them are achievable on a daily basis. Having more energy and being able to breathe better after exercise, the feeling of eating just enough food to nourish you without overdoing it and having a bloated belly – will be felt straight away.
Who you are being, is a choice that you make in every moment. instead of seeing yourself as a fat person who is trying to lose weight, recognise that you are already healthy from the moment you start making better choices. If you consciously commit to being who you want to be, sure enough you will have what you want to have.