There is one topic that is hot on the press around the world right now, and we must brace ourselves for impending change, because I need to warn you that the legalising of marriage equality poses a potential outbreak of love and peace.
I find the gay marriage debate to be quite exciting, for what it is about to uncover. It’s a tug of war – a game of right vs wrong where the team on each side wants to prove that they on the “right” side.
Let me start by making one thing very clear – there IS NO universal meaning – for anything. As we go through life, we each place meanings on events that occur. For example, if somebody is rude to you, you might make it mean that “all people are rude”, whereas someone else might make it mean that that person “probably just had a bad day”.
We each have our own individual meanings. Based on our unique life experiences, we decide what we consider to be right or wrong, good or bad. Sometimes we meet people or groups who hold similar meanings to us, and some whose meanings clash with ours.
Our differences is what brings such a richness to our society – we are like colours that come together to make a vivid rainbow. But those differences can also lead to conflict and violence. So how do we decide who is right and who is wrong?
Well there IS no right and wrong, so the solution lies in our values. We have individual values, relationship values, company values and community values (to name a few).
Same-sex marriage is right for some, and wrong for others – and that’s fine. No matter how strongly you feel (whether for or against) it is YOUR meaning – and you cannot apply it to the population a a whole. Each person is entitled to their beliefs, but nobody is entitled to force their beliefs upon others – because as a society we value freedom, peace and love.
A common reason used to protest against same-sex marriage is religion, in particular Christianity (ironic given that Jesus was a man who came to earth to teach unconditional love). Marriage is a religious ceremony for many people – but not all, and neither is everyone religious. Thousands of atheists around the world get married every day.
Some people believe that marriage equality would ruin the sanctity of marriage. I personally believe divorce does a better job of that.
For those who say that marriage is between a man and a woman, you are absolutely correct – it is. Just like once upon a time, voting rights were not for women or black people. The gaps for those two groups have not entirely closed, but the whole point is that we grow and evolve as a society, and our values change. Whether it’s about race, gender or sexual orientation – the overriding issue at the heart of it is equality.
Our politicians are also entitled to their views, but they must remember that leaders are responsible for leading the people, not just themselves. Unless you have been living under a rock for the past few months, it is becoming increasingly obvious what the people (as a majority) want.
At the end of the day, legalising same-sex marriage is a step towards promoting our higher values (such as love) and marriage is collectively about love. And when people live in accordance with their values – whether individual or societal values – they are happiest. I don’t know about you, but I can’t wait to see what positive changes arise from a society of happier people.
Marriage equality wil not hurt anyone or impinge on anyone else’s freedom. Gay people will have the right to marry a same-sex partner, heterosexual people have the right to marry an opposite-sex partner, and everyone will be happy. That is, of course, assuming you can be happy without the need to control others. But that’s a whole other issue for another post … 🙂