Emotion = energy in motion
Every emotion you feel has an energetic presence in your body.
Each of these emotions vibrate at a particular frequency that either leaves you feeling lighter (a sense of wellbeing), or heavier (a sense of unease).
Emotions should flow through you by way of expressing them, and it feels natural and easy to express the ones that bring us joy.
However when it comes to heavier emotions such as sadness, grief or anxiety, this isn’t as easy to do. Rather than express these sorts of we have been taught to suppress them.
The increasing over-prescription of anti-depressants fuel a belief that we are not meant to experience any of the difficult emotions in life. That the only valid emotions are happiness and joy, and by simply popping a pill we can bypass the bad ones.
As tempting as it may be to distract yourself from feeling into them, avoiding difficult emotions may create problems for you in the long run.
The energy that’s inside you will be pushed down and become trapped in your body.
Because these emotions have a lower energy, and combined with the fact that during stress your body releases stress hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline, holding onto these emotions for a prolonged period will put your body in a state that is more susceptible to illness.
When life situations can make us sick
In her book Mind Over Medicine, renowned mind-body medicine physician Lissa Rankin writes of how she began asking her patients what they believed they needed in order to heal themselves. Expecting them to list medical procedures, she was surprised to hear answers such as:
… I need to divorce my husband
… I need to leave my job
… I need to forgive my mother-in-law
… I need to learn to love myself
Not only did her patients responded with the desire to release spiritually draining life situations, but rapid physical healing transformations occurred when they followed their hunches.
A clear pattern emerged, and Lissa began to realise that people are innately aware of what they need in order to heal themselves. This experience was the beginning of Lissa’s groundbreaking discoveries in how thoughts, feelings, and beliefs can alter the body’s physiology.
Her findings prove that loneliness, pessimism, depression, fear, and anxiety create illness within the body, whereas intimate relationships, gratitude, meditation, sex, and authentic self-expression can switch on the body’s self-healing processes.
Emotions are our body’s way of processing experiences
We don’t get to bypass the difficult emotions. They are a part of life and are our body’s way of processing difficult experiences – which we are all going to go through at some stage.
Even when you might think those emotions are gone, they will reappear as soon as you are triggered by similar circumstances, because the energy still exists on a cellular level in your body.
Any unprocessed negative emotions such as shame, blame, resentment and guilt need to be dealt with. When you avoid experiencing those emotions you will keep repeating the same patterns, because subconsciously you will continue to attract those same situations into your life until you release the energy around those emotions.
Give your body permission to express what it needs to release
When you are tempted to distract yourself from an emotion that has been building up, give yourself permission to fully feel into and express what your body needs to release.
For example if there is sadness, try listening to music that resonates with the way you feel, and be gentle with yourself and breathe through it.
Crying is a natural bodily function so if you feel the urge to cry, let the tears cleanse your eyes and allow the energy of the sadness to convert into water and leave your body.
We need to let go of the idea that crying and expressing sadness is a sign of weakness.
Anyone can walk around with a social mask on and hide the way they feel – people are doing this all the time.
There are people hiding their true feelings even from themselves.
However it takes vulnerability to let your true emotions show, and vulnerability requires courage. So it’s actually strength – not weakness – that enables you to go from putting up walls around yourself to letting your guard down.
It might feel counter-intuitive to induce emotions such as sadness, especially if you’re getting pressure from yourself or others to “cheer up”.
But sometimes hurt is necessary for growth, and the best way around emotional pain is through it – by giving your body the space to experience and process those feelings without interruption or resistance.
Ask yourself now, what does your body need to let go of in order to heal itself?